A few years ago I got my introduction to mindfulness: an 8-week Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction course. It’s safe to say it changed my life. It not only gave me practical ways to cope with my anxiety and depression, but it also provided me with a new perspective on life.
“Making the decision to have a child - it is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. ”
― Elizabeth Stone
Most of us have had that friend. The person we drag our feet about seeing and once we finally do see them… we don’t leave feeling the greatest. In today’s world of hyperconnectedness (that’s not a word but I’m pretending it is) and having our social lives at our fingertips, it can be hard for friendships that have run their course to actually do so.
Everybody experiences change in their lives. Change can come in many forms but as part of our human nature, we normally do not like major changes and fear the unknown and uncertainties.
It didn’t come without its challenges. Nothing great usually does, but that’s only so comforting when you’re running around trying to control things out of your control. That’s the joy of planning an event, but in this particular instance, I think it also came with a valuable lesson: it’s the people – not the details – that make all the difference.
Self-harm is a topic that isn’t usually discussed openly because of the stigma surrounding it, resulting in great misconceptions about self-harm and those who self-harm.
What was the last mistake you made? What feelings come up as you think back on it? Guilt? Embarrassment? Shame? It can be a natural instinct to turn away from our mistakes and avoid re-living the negativity that went along with them. However, using mistakes as opportunities to learn, reflect and grow could help us to become more resilient and more confident decision makers.
As someone who often finds themselves racing to keep up to keep up with a busy schedule, trying to stay focused on one task at a time or just trying to be a little more present in my day to day life, practicing mindfulness has been something I have wanted to try for a while to help me with these things.
Positive Psychologist, Dr. Martin Seligman talks about wellbeing and flourishing being the result of a number of elements, including experiencing Positive feelings/emotions, Engagement in something (also known as “flow”), good Relationships with others, Meaning, and Achievement (PERMA).