It is also hard when we fall short of our own parenting standards. The stakes are high.
Imagine the last time you were not the parent that you want to be... maybe you yelled at your child as a response to their tantrum - and you deeply regret your words. Maybe you had a hectic morning and dropped them off late for school – and you feel guilty.
Responding with self or inner compassion
It can help to imagine how you would respond to a good friend or family member who is struggling:
- What would you say?
- What support might you offer?
- What would you be careful NOT to say or do?
Children also benefit when we model kindness and self-compassion. Our example teaches them how to be kind and forgiving towards themselves.
Compassion can be strong and fierce
When we practice fierce self-compassion by setting boundaries and taking time for our own needs, this can help us to stay well and build resilience.
Remember: the smallest act of self-kindness can transform a difficult experience.
Even holding an intention to bring awareness and kindness to our experience is an act of compassion.