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What if my child won't sleep alone?

Some parents may decide that a co-sleeping arrangement is best for their family with young children, while others choose to encourage their child to fall asleep alone. 

Sometimes co-sleeping can make it difficult for parents to get a good night’s sleep or find alone time with a spouse or partner.

Some anxious children feel a sense of security by sleeping close to their parents, and may be afraid of sleeping alone at first.

If this is something your family wants to change, here are tips for helping your child sleep alone:

  • Make sure your child is safe and well and leave the room
  • If this is an ongoing issue, you may have to take the process very slowly. Start with sitting at the other side of the room and slowly moving farther away until you're actually outside the door.
  • Avoid returning to your child's room. Alternatively, you can try to wean your child off of your support by waiting longer periods before checking on them. When checking, keep the visit to a minute or two. 
  • For older children, try reward charts or other positive reinforcement. 
  • Read these helpful hints from Anxiety Canada for helping your child sleep alone or away from home. 

Note: Find recommendations here for safe sleep for babies

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