Ask yourself, “What do I need right now?”
- This question helps you find what self-compassion means in this moment. You may need a half-hour alone to recharge, or to hide in the bathroom for a quick break. You might need a reassuring conversation with a friend. Or, you might need to finish a task that you have put off, that is causing you stress. It’s important to consider your own needs as much as those of your child.
“Taking care of yourself doesn’t mean ‘me first,’ it means ‘me too'.”
~ L.R. Knost
Physical touch can be another way to show yourself compassion
- Try resting your hand over your heart, as a gesture of comfort toward yourself. Or, give yourself a hug. The body responds to touch – it calms the nervous system.
Think of something that went well today
- Instead of fixating on what went wrong or your perceived failures, focus on all the small things that went well during the day. You might surprise yourself! We tend to dwell on negative experiences, which can overshadow positive moments.
Bring mindful awareness to your body and breath
- You can try this anytime – like before bed, when you finally have a moment to yourself. If thoughts flood your mind, remind yourself that you’ve done enough. Let the thoughts go.
